TWMM: Healing Guidance for Post-Rape

In the event of a rape, and there is lack of support, here are some healing and guiding tools to manage, and navigate through it.

Traditional Wilderness Midwifery and Medicine

Anshin B. Kelly, Traditional Midwife and Wilderness Medicine Practitioner 

Copyright ©️ Anshin B. Kelly, All Rights Reserved.

Healing Guidance for Post-Rape

In the event of a rape, and there is lack of support, here are some healing and guiding tools to manage, and navigate through it.

RAPE: Is forced penetration/entry into the body, with another body, or objects. It can happen:

1. With/to everyday adults and children

2. It can happen in a hospital setting with a medical professional; such as in the case of a doctor forcing their fingers into the vagina without permission, respect or awareness for the woman.

There are physical levels of severity to rape, however, the way in which rape affects a person internally can vary significantly, person to person. Especially in the Modern West, the term “rape” has been used to create and spread a cultural narrative of victimhood. This is not good. Rape is a very severe criminal act, and should not be taken lightly, including the conversations developed around it. For example: 

I heard a woman allege her rape from a man. She created a website, an email and other declarations surrounding her zealous fury over the crime. However, I have not heard her press charges of any kind. Here’s what possibly happened: 

She may very well have been raped (forcibly penetrated by the man), but her actions do not display the usual actions of a woman who is wholly a victim. For example:

A woman was beaten and raped at knife point. She was hospitalized, and told almost no one about her rape. She was blamed for the event. With no support, pressing charges on the man would have been impossible in this case.

The First woman is a product of the modern/Western age: She clearly lacks perspective about her personal suffering, and thinks that what happened to her is the pinnacle of sexual abuse. She clearly does not fear her allegedly violent rapist, not the way women who are beaten and raped usually do. With all her “support” the fact that she hasn’t pressed charges is rather revealing about her intentions, and whether she is wholly a “victim” in her case. 

The Second woman was wholly a victim in her rape: She was beaten severely and when she tried to escape was held at knifepoint, then raped. She remained terrified, ashamed, and crippled emotionally for the rest of her life. As a result she never reached out for help because she had been blamed when it happened. 

STEP ONE, KEEP CALM and AWARE:

Questions to Ask and Thoughts to Have:

1. Is there danger? As in, is the rapist still able to hurt you?

2. Can you call for help?

3. Are you able to get to a hospital? (Go ASAP)

4. Is there bleeding?

NOTE: If you are bleeding from the vagina or anus: Stay calm. 

1. If you have access to clean, fresh water, drink as much as you can.

2. Apply pressure with a cloth to the area, (do not press down on your uterus).

3. Take vitamin E

4. Sip herbal tea (non-caffeinated) Nettle Leaf is one of the best.

5. Apply olive oil, coconut oil, or lard to the area.

6. If you have an ice pack, or cold water apply that.

7. Take ARNICA homeopathic if you have it.

STEP TWO:

Get HELP as soon as you can. Go to a hospital as soon as you can. GET REST AS SOON AS YOU CAN.

Breathe: IN through your nose OUT through your mouth.

Say a Prayer, ask for strength and you will receive it.

As SOON as you can, TALK about your experience with someone you TRUST.